Prostate Problems Or Sex Disease?

It surprises a lot of people suffering from prostate problems to find out their pain has nothing to do with the gland whatsoever. And, it also surprises others who think they have a venereal disease only to find out there’s a prostate issue going on.

That might sound amusing to some people.

But it’s actually pretty serious.

Not only for diagnosing the right condition (so you can get the right treatment if you have prostate problems).

But also for saving your marriage!

Here’s what I mean:

A while back there was a guy who was suffering from what he thought was a venereal disease. He was even told this by a doctor and was so convinced he had the disease he figured his wife was actually cheating on him.

What happened?

After dropping close to a hundred dollars on medicine specifically for treating gonorrhea and syphilis, his condition saw no improvement whatsoever.

In fact, it even started getting worse!

So he did what any half way intelligent guy would do… and got a second opinion (this time from a doctor that knew what he was doing.) And the first thing this doctor did was check his prostate.

And sure enough, they found out he didn’t have VD, he had prostatitis.

Yes, the two diseases DO have similar symptoms.

And that’s why you have to always remember these two things:

One, never only accept a first opinion from a doctor (as obviously not all are exactly on the ball).

And two, if you have any symptoms of prostate problems, make sure you get tested for that (even if you think it’s VD or something else). It’s the only way to be sure. And it can save you a lot of time and money (and maybe even your marriage).

Health Benefits of Sex Include Heart Disease Prevention

The health benefits of sex are clear… A recent study in the American Journal of Cardiology finds men who said they had sex once a month (or less) had a higher risk of cardiovascular disease than men who had sex two times a week (or more).

While there has been work in the past to look at the link between erectile dysfunction (ED) and heart disease, this most recent study is the first to investigate the frequency of sex as it might relate to heart health.

Heart disease is the leading cause of death for both men and women in the United States.

For this latest work, researcher Susan A. Hall, Ph.D. of the New England Research Institutes and her colleagues analyzed men who took part in the population based Massachusetts Male Aging Study.

This study looked at erectile dysfunction plus other sexual function variables – Things like libido, for example. The work included 1,165 men (in their 50’s on average) who had no history of heart disease at the beginning of the study, though 213 did have ED at the start of the research.

The participants were followed, on average, for 16 years.

The team found that there was a higher risk of cardiovascular disease as the frequency of sexual activity decreased. When compared to subjects who had sex at least 2 to 3 times a week, men with sexual activity of once a month (or less) had a 45% higher risk of heart disease during the study.

These findings do account for things like age and ED status.

“Our results suggest that a low frequency of sexual activity predicts [cardiovascular disease] independently of [erectile dysfunction] and that screening for sexual activity might be clinically useful,” the researchers write.

As part of the study, the team also investigated the role of sexual desire and the subjects’ capacity for sex as other possible factors in heart disease risk. Hall explains to online medical resource WebMD, “Men who are sexually active likely have libido and the capacity for physical activity. So the ability to have sex might be a marker for overall health.”

Of course a man who’s having regular sex is more likely to be in a supportive, intimate relationship with a regular partner, and experts do agree that this could also be responsible for an improvement in health.

The idea behind the study is that your doctor could get information about your cardiovascular condition, and risk for disease, just by asking some personal questions about your sex life, interest in sex and how active you are on a regular basis.

Of course talking about sex with a doctor or healthcare professional who seems rushed and preoccupied might not be the easiest thing you’ve ever done, but you can’t let this stop you.

Instead, plan what you’ll say…if you have a question, try to keep it to one or two sentences. You might also do some research online (using reputable sites as sources, of course) on your own to get you familiar with the basics.

Most important of all, remember that a doctor is a person, and while he (or she) might be uncomfortable with the topic, this does NOT mean you can’t raise it and get help with your problems.

In fact, expect a bit of awkwardness, feeling embarrassed when you start out, and you’ll be better prepared to face it in the moment, rather than back down and not get the answer you need.

The thing for men, and the women who love them, to take away from this research is that sexual health may have a lot more to do with heart disease prevention than medical science has realized.

How To Restore Sexual Libido In Your Relationship

Are you unhappy with your sex life because she has little or lack of sexual desire? What can you do when you are faced with this situation?

Do you have any of the following symptoms-

(a) You have sex maybe 10-12 times in 3 years
(b) She has little or no interest in sex and any other sexual activities
(c) Sex becomes a chore for her
(d) You initiate almost all sexual activities
(e) When she does initiate it, she wants to quickly get over with it
(f) You no longer have any sexual fantasies about your partner
(g) You do not feel connected to each other emotionally and sexually
(h) You increasingly feel lonely, dissatisfied, unloved and empty

If you have one or more of the above symptoms, you are likely to face the situation of a low or no-sex relationship or sexless marriage. There may be many underlying reasons for a woman to be not interested in sex and it is very normal for you to feel frustrated when you have unmet expectations.

Here are a few suggestions that you can try at least to start the ball rolling in order to reverse this trend of decreasing sexual desire.

(1) Reclaim your sexual side for yourself

Orgasm is a great stress reliever and there is a need for an outlet for your sexual release. A way you can do is to masturbate. This will help to keep your emotions in check if the level of frustration continues to intensify. Do remember that it is your responsibility to keep in touch with your own physical needs.

(2) Touch her in non-sexual ways

Studies have shown that a simple touch can reduce anxiety, lower blood pressure, decrease pain and fear, inhibit loneliness and release endorphins in the brain that not only make us feel loved, but want to give love in return.

Affection and non-sexual touch can build trusts, deepen intimacy and strengthen a relationship. Holding hands, hugging, kissing and gentle massage of the neck, shoulders and back are wonderful ways to show affection without the pressure of sex. You need to break the touch barrier that is happening between the both of you.

(3) Have a heart-to-heart talk

You can put across how you feel to your woman in a non-confrontation way. You can say something like this – “I love you. I feel that something that is important to me is missing in our relationship. I need a more intimate relationship.” Then ask her to set aside a time to have the most open and honest conversation about sex that you can ever have with her.

If she says no, ask if she would prefer to do it with the help of trained personnel such as marriage counselor or a sex therapist who is non-judgmental and unbiased. If she still says no, tell her that being in a sexless marriage is not what you want and you are willing to work with her to make life together better and that you are asking her to be willing to do the same.

During the open and honest conversation there is a need to find out about your woman’s sexuality such as whether she ever feels sexy, either alone or with you; whether she can pinpoint anything that happen to her in the past that can cause her to hold back sexually; has she ever masturbated or have an orgasm; any reasons for her for not wanting to have sex.

There is a need on your part to be dedicated and patient enough to help her discover her sexuality, possibly for the first time. You must also be willing to do whatever it takes to let her feel comfortable enough to feel sexual.

You need to tell her that you feel unloved, dissatisfied and empty when being trapped in a low-sex or sexless situation. Explain to her that you are willing to do anything to make sure she will enjoy a sexual relationship with you as much as you will.

If her level of sexual experience is an issue, offer to show her what feels good for you. Also ask her to show you what feels good to her, the better if she is willing to masturbate in front of you. Help her to embrace her sexuality and encourage her to share it with you. Learning how to love and please each other is a great bonding experience which can help to strengthen a relationship.

Living in a sexless relationship for long times is very stressful and unhealthy physically, mentally and emotionally. All it takes is the willingness to invest the time and energy to do whatever it takes to save your marriage/relationship by revitalizing your sex life.