Lesbian Relationships and Friends

One of the most difficult challenges, particularly in a same-sex relationship, is establishing boundaries with friends and blending with each others’ friends. Plus, doing this while remaining secure and making each other feel like she is the most important person in the world!

Ordinarily in lesbian relationships, the majority of friends are the same-sex. Friends can be intrusive, meddlesome, opinionated, jealous, rude and inconsiderate; however, they can also be fun, supportive, considerate, helpful, and great sounding boards. There is no doubt, friends will either play havoc on a relationship or be accepting and considerate.

Let’s work from the premise that the relationship is the top priority and friends are not (but still very important). There are several key areas to focus on that can immediately bolster the relationship. These areas need to be mutually established and respected:

Boundaries – Agree on parameters that are manageable. Determine what the negotiable and non-negotiable items are. Examples: Agree to both be home by 8pm, unless otherwise discussed; no answering phones during dinnertime; cell phones are off-limits when you crawl into bed. If you go to happy hour, invite the other to join or at least communicate plans and be home on time. Remember, these boundaries must be agreed upon. If you end up policing and penalizing because of the boundaries, what you have in place is not working. The boundaries are to be and feel respectful of each other, not to hold you hostage.

Communication – Make each other feel special, loved, secure and safe. Talk to each other about everything. Find out about what is important to each other, feelings, favorite things, pet peeves, goals and dreams, fears and phobias, food, children, families, etc. Get to really know each other better than anyone else. Build trust and respect. Make each other feel valued and important.

Common Interests – Explore what you enjoy doing together such as projects, travel, entertaining friends, cooking, golf, fishing, hiking, etc. It is not necessary to do everything together, but it is healthy to do some (enough) things together. It is important to have fun together and feel connected. Orchestrate your relationship so that you are not always running parallel, but have enough intersecting times that keep you in sync with each other.

Host social occasions – One way to blend with each other’s friends is to jointly host social times at your home such as dinners and game nights. Another is to plan outings with joint friends such as happy hours, going to dinner and movies, so forth. The key is to become more comfortable with each other’s friends. Make efforts to blend friends and be more inclusive.

Spontaneity – Surprise each other in ways that you know are appreciated and liked. Break the routine and break away from all others and do for each other. Make each other feel exceptional.

Happy, long-term relationships are to be nurtured treated as top priority. Focus on enjoying your time together. Include friends when it’s appropriate and mutually agreed upon. There should be no feeling of competing for time, attention and love! Friends are to be fun additions.

Safe Sex is Important

Safe sex also known as safer sex is a way to protect and prevent you from the possibility of catching HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. Safe sex means not allowing body fluids- blood, semen, vaginal fluids- into your body from one partner to the other.

Although safe sex doesn’t guarantee that you will not catch HIV, but it reduces the risk enormously.

The only way for not getting the sexually transmitted diseases (STD) is abstinence that is having no sex at all. But this is not possible and you cannot refrain from involving into sexual activity therefore safe sex becomes important. Some STDs can be treated but there is no cure for many of them. HIV and Hepatitis B have serious effects on the people affected by it. AIDS (Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome) is caused by HIV infection (Human Immunodeficiency Virus). A person who has been infected with HIV is an HIV positive (HIV+) otherwise he or she is known as being HIV negative (HIV-). AIDS and HIV are incurable. Safe sex is the only way to protect from such incurable diseases. HIV virus is transmitted through body fluids including blood, ejaculate (cum), pre-ejaculate (pre-cum) and female genital fluids (both vaginal and cervical fluid). Therefore it is necessary to take precautions and keep yourself protected from the virus as well as protecting your partners. Going for sex without the use of condom carries the highest risk of getting the sex diseases.

Safe sex also means avoiding contact with your partner’s infected body parts such as herpes sores or warts. Although oral sex is considered safe yet there is risk involved if one of the partner’s has gum problems. Bleeding gums and other teeth diseases can get you close to STDs. Herpes has been said to be transmitted from genitals to mouth and mouth to genitals. You may also have cut or sores in your mouth that could cause harm. Oral sex is much less risky than anal or vaginal sex.

Sexually transmitted diseases can be caused if a person has multiple sex partners. If a person has sex with an STD or HIV infected person or has sex with a person who has multiple sex partners.

To protect you from sexually transmitted diseases you should have safe sex. For that the use of condoms is the safest method. Condoms guarantees 90% safety if used properly. Whatever type of sexual activity you are involved in it is important to play safe and prevent yourself from unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.

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Sex, Sexual Health Concerns and Sexology – An Insight Into Your Problems and Solutions

Do you often find yourself questioning whether or not you’re a normal man or woman? Are there several occasions when you’re forced to doubt your manhood or womanhood, the only reason for which is Sex?

Well, if these are the things happening with you and think they might as well be the reasons of you being in depression, then you need to get educated now. Grab as much information as possible related to sex, sexual health concerns, sex diseases and sexology to find a possible answer to your questions.But before you start searching the internet for all possible bits of information, it’s recommended that you read this article until the end so as to be able to find an answer immediately.

To begin with, let ‘Sexology’ be the thing you want to read about-

Sexology refers to the scientific study of human sexuality and their sexual relationships. The scientific structure of sex and sexuality can be tracked back at least to the classical Greek period of the Western world, and even earlier to that in the Eastern world. Throughout the traces of history, any emphasis in sexological study was intended to focus on the outcomes of sex, rather than the experience of performing it.

However, in the current times, sexology is looked upon as a larger chapter, giving a lot of healthy insight on the things that are included in it. Right from the basics of sexual health to the problems that are associated with it and the related health problems; sexology becomes a huge area to be covered.

More so, sex isn’t just about a few moments of perfect romance or intimacy, rather it has a whole new aspect associated with it, usually the negative – Sexual Health and Sex Diseases.

This chapter of sex, usually the most neglected but also an important one has many facets to it. While most choose to ignore it to a huge extent, there are still a few who choose to talk about it and discuss with a concerned sexologist. Discussing your sex related concerns with a doctor doesn’t necessarily mean there is something definitely wrong with you that demands treatment, but it also doesn’t assure that you’re fit. A specialized sexologist will ask you a few necessary questions, suggest some tests and guide you accordingly. Your association with him and his guidance will have a huge role to play in your personal life.

While there is an alarming growth in the number of people facing one or the other form of sexual illness, there is also a huge amount of growth in those suffering from sexually oriented diseases. So whether you’re of those who’re willing to discuss about your sexual illness or a sexually transmitted disease, the only thing you need to do is get in touch with the right sexologist, preferably the one who’s trained and experienced to provide assistance and medication.

Amongst a huge list of sexual health problems and diseases, the ones that are usually the most talked about include- vaginal dryness, erectile dysfunction, reproductive issues, lack of desire, low libido, ejaculation problems, etc. All these health concerns can cause a major damage to your personal life, triggering depression, loss of intimation and love and can be a probable reason for separation between the partners; and you don’t want something like sex to ruin your lives.

Looking at the problems and the amount of negativity they cause in your life,it is recommended that you get in touch with a sexologist, someone who can look into your personal life and guide you in the best possible manner.

So, now you know – if you’re facing a problem during sex or lack the desire to make it happen, then meet a sexologist before you spoil your relationship with your partner. After all, sexual health, like emotional, mental, and physical health, is one important dimension of overall health.